Image Vs Reality

Dreams- lost and found...time to reclaim them?

For a second I thought moving on means to completely let go of the old and starting on an altogether new turf. Now I know, for me to move on; it is important to bring the new while strengthening the old; to allow the new to build on the new foundation or revisit the old with a fresh perspective and new vigor.

I gave up on my dreams thinking that they’d lost their hold on me. I realize today that they just got buried under the dust and it is time to bring them to light. It is only by rekindling that light can I have peace back into my life.

Though I try not to but I can’t help question the futility of the dreams lost and found. I think it was for a perspective to be brought into my psyche- a perspective so strong that it will mark the foundation of my life from now on or so I think. I am not as ambitious as I was but I am more content now. The eagerness to prove is now mellowed down and replaced with acceptance of self and the world and I am eager to have fun while chasing my goals (yes goals, I still haven’t got my ability to dream back!) without burdening myself with my own expectations.

The road ahead is highly ambiguous and I hope I don’t change course again. Still tons of figuring out to do! Wandering and meandering through life has its perks, but for once I want to get some firm feet on the ground! J

Love and Light!

Do you make or break someone's heart with your feedback?

You can never change anyone by criticizing them no matter how ‘constructive’ your criticism is. You might have the best interest of the person at heart but if you are pointing faults no matter how genuine and right they might be, your feedback would only be received with resentment.

Can you see the message behind the packaging? I guess most of us don’t!

So what do you do when you want to help improve a loved one? First thing first- No one changes anyone. People change themselves and that too only when they want to. Remember ‘God helps those who help themselves’? Yes, now you get the drift!

Now, if you want a loved one to change their eating habits because their lifestyle can land them health problems, what do you intend to do?

Say ‘You are getting fat, one day you’ll bloat like a balloon and fly off!’ ??

Or would you say ‘Your shirt is not fitting you well, kids will call you an elephant.’

Either ways you would get dirty looks from the angry or embarrassed loved one.

Trust me, your feedback will get you haters; I have been at the receiving end of such feedback and I wanted to murder or atleast slap the critic. :P

How wonderful it had been if you could tell the person -‘ I just happen to see a stunning gown at the mall this weekend and I think with a few pounds down, you will look like a Diva in it. Also, I feel you will feel fitter and healthier and lighter.’

How do you think the receiver of the feedback will feel?

Hopeful

Excited

Definitely motivated

And may be she starts imagining herself as a Diva already!

So what changed? Your packaging of the message did.

From making someone feel bad about their weight to motivating them to lose weight has made all the difference in someone’s self esteem.

And once the person starts valuing your feedback, you will feel positive too!

So next time you have an opinion to share or genuinely want to help someone, boost up his self esteem and see the person creating wonders for themselves.

Love and Light!